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Masturbation Therapy for Sexual Turn-Ons: Masturbatory reconditioning. Sometimes people develop sexual turn-ons that are bothersome to them. One boy may be turned on by midget sex fantasies, even though he knows that this is not right. Another person may be so obsessed with sexy balloon girls that he cannot reach orgasm unless he is playing with them.
Fortunately, people do not become permanently "fixated" on any one type of sexual turn on. Most average sexual turn-ons are created via psychosexual conditioning when a new stimulus becomes paired with masturbation and orgasm over and over again. Therapy consists of building more socially acceptable sexual turnons via new Pavlovian conditioning, during a process called "masturbatory reconditioning."
Sexologists have developed a type of therapy that people can use to free themselves of unwanted sexual turn-ons. People need to broaden their range of sexual turn-ons to include many other themes that are different from-even opposite from-the unwanted sexual turn-on. People need to develop socially acceptable sexual turn-ons which arouse their sexual feelings without making them feel guilty or fearful. Mr. K's goal is to broaden his range of "sexual turn-ons." He needs to select pictures-that he can eroticize via Pavlovian conditioning- which will not make him embarrassed to discuss with others, including his girlfriend. She will probably be understanding if he tells her that he masturbates to pictures from men's magazines, especially if he is very considerate of her and helps her have a wonderful time in bed too (see links to female orgasm).
People can use masturbatory reconditioning to add many socially acceptable tum-ons to their collection of mental images which make them feel sexually aroused. By selecting socially acceptable pictures for their masturbatory imagery, they will not have to feel guilty if other people were to ask them what turns them on. They will not have to fear that they might someday be driven to initiate sex with a child or commit a rape in order to live out deviant sexual fantasies.
Scientific research on masturbatory reconditioning shows that this therapy works well. People can trust that their sexual imagery will change over time if they keep focused on finding exciting pictures and themes that are free of deviant sexual images. But they have to find new stimuli that keep them focused on socially acceptable sex if they are to successfully force themselves to keep deviant sexual images out of their heads. It is up to each person to carry out these exercises as described above. If people are undisciplined and allow themselves to "cheat" (by thinking about deviant stimuli while masturbating), they may not reach the successes that masturbatory reconditioning can offer. People who have deviant sexual turn-ons have a solvable problem. The information in this web site may be enough to help a person overcome it, but people should see a professional sex therapist if the problem persists.
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